Be aware of all of the different behaviours that the people around you are acting out. Which ones are loving? Which are not? The behaviours that are not loving are really a call for love. If there is an attack on us specifically, it is a call for our love. Our willingness to respond to that behaviour, not by defending ourself, but by moving toward the attacker and giving to them, will win an ally. This person who was attacking, will be very loyal to us in the future, both in good and hard times. Right now, however, they need our love. Some people are caught in deadness, and others are caught in attack. We are being asked to remember what it's like to be in need and the cries we have made for help when we could not even speak the words. In the same way, those who are attacking us are also crying for help, asking for our love. If we look around we will see to whom we are called to respond, who we are called to move toward, and who we are called to help.

Today, think of the person who is attacking you the most in your life. Imagine them here with you and that you are moving toward them responsively, realising that their attack is the call for your specific help. What is the help that they need from you? How is it that you can assist them? See how you are inspired to respond to them. Are you inspired to call them? To write them? To give something to them? To talk to them? In assisting them, you will find that these are the very people who have answers for you, if not now, in the future. If it is not in some direct way, it will be as a reflection of the part of your mind they represent, so that in helping them, you help yourself.

IF IT HURTS IT ISN'T LOVE

In spite of what all the songs, books and movies tell us, if it hurts, it is not love. Only our needs hurt; only not getting what we want hurts. Love cannot hurt because it is a feeling of contact that brings joy. When we shrink, contract, or pull away, that is what hurts. When we do not get our needs met, it hurts. When something in a relationship brings up our old pain, we hurt. Love does not hurt us, it expands us. Sometimes when our heart expands, it can feel a bit like hurt, but it is poignancy - the richness of our heart growing in love and appreciation. Poignancy is your heart beginning to dance again after having been crippled a long time. There is a real sweetness to this feeling as our heart expands with love.

Today, look at the situations where you have tried to measure your love by your hurt. Where have you disguised your needs as love and, then, tried to get the other person to respond in a similar manner? Be willing to let go of these needs so you can move forward and make contact with your partner, not as you want them to be, but as they really are.

THE PERSON I LIKE THE LEAST IS SHOWING ME WHAT IS HOLDING ME BACK

The person we like the least is showing us what is holding us back. This person is called a shadow figure. They embody the shadow side of ourself - what we have hidden away and repressed in ourself. As long as we keep it repressed, people who embody these same qualities will tend to come at us in our life. The way through is to look beyond our repulsion and remember that these individuals are there to let us know about the invisible block that has been holding back our progress. When our experience is one of working very hard, but making very little movement forward, the situation is the result of a belief we have about ourself, a quality we hate about ourself. We buried the quality and, then, projected it onto someone else, which completely blocks us by setting up an invisible shield to our progress. When there is a shadow figure around us, or when we have projected a certain quality that we just cannot stand onto our partner, this quality drags behind us like an invisible anchor and holds us back.

Today, ask for self-forgiveness. Ask for a feeling of innocence and resolution for both of you. Your willingness to have your Higher Power handle the needed forgiveness with this person releases the invisible block in your life and allows you to move forward at this very moment.

IN ANY CONFLICT, BOTH PEOPLE ARE FEELING THE SAME THING

In any conflict, people act out opposite behaviours, but underneath their behaviour, they are feeling the same thing. For instance, one person may be a spendthrift and the other a miser. Both people are feeling the same sense of scarcity, the fear that there is not enough. The spendthrift compensates for this feeling by spending excessively to get over this fear. The miser on the other hand, pinches pennies to protect against the feeling of scarcity.


In any power struggle both people are trying to protect themselves against the same feeling. If we are in touch with our feelings, we can then be in touch with the feeling underneath our partner's behaviour. Our willingness to begin communicating about this feeling allows us to find a common place, a beginning of something that we share. This is the beginning of healing, because once we find an area of common connection, we are on our way to moving forward together.


Today, choose a person with whom you are in conflict, and ask yourself, "What is the feeling underneath my behaviour?" Now take a look at their behaviour and see if their feeling fits with yours. Naturally, when you are at the most essential feeling, you find that it fits exactly. If you come to a feeling of anger, realise anger is a defence that protects an even deeper feeling. Whatever your deeper feeling, be willing to begin the communication by sharing your feelings with the purpose of moving ahead. For instance, you could start off by saying, "I'm feeling this feeling, are you feeling it too?"

We all want to fall in love.
Why?
Because that experience
makes us feel completely alive.
Where every sense
is heightened,
every emotion
is magnified,
our everyday reality
is shattered
and we are flying
into the heavens.
It may only last
a moment, an hour,
an afternoon.
But that doesn't
diminish its value.
Because we are
left with memories
that we treasure
for the rest
of our lives.

Amen to that.  

Dodajam še današnjo Sai Babovo misel dneva:

Man is consciousness incarnate. Man is the highest object in creation. Hence, he should not become a creature of instinct like animals. Man should progress from the human to the Divine. It is not the world that binds man. It has neither eyes to see nor hands to grasp. Man is a prisoner of his own thoughts and desires. In his attachment to the ephemeral and the perishable, man forgets his inherent Divinity and does not realize that everything in the universe has come from the Divine and cannot exist without the power of the Divine.